What Does Sostrin Suggest Generally About Myth in Effective Communication?

What Does Sostrin Suggest Generally About Myth in Effective Communication?

Melbourne Classical Radio - “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. But Communication skills has already been declared as the "Skill of 21st century". In my opinion, Mastering communication skills is a challenge every individual should gladly accept. 

This requires continuous planning, learning, realisation and a will to constantly improve. So before we begin learning to improve our communication, I want our learners to understand something. I want you to know the “Myths around communication”. 

A myth is something which is believed to be true but turns out to be a lie or I can say a myth is a lie to stop your need for truth. So before we learn how to improve our communication skills, we will realise and correct our mistakes with regards to communication skills, because I believe learning begins with correcting our mistakes. 

So here we go breaking down 7 myths of Communication skills. “LETS LEARN” 

Telling is communication. 

When I ask," What is communication?" I get answers like telling something, transfer of ideas, sharing messages. Good ones, just not good enough. Because, that isn’t entirely true. Telling is only a part of communication, how the receiver gets it, understands and gives a reply completes communication.

U Sometimes people assume that just because they have sent a message, they have communicated. That isn’t true. We will take a simple example. Imagine you are about to cross a busy road. 

Just because you send a signal(message), You can’t just walk in and cross the road. Instead, what you do is, You send a signal, you ensure that the driver gets it, and you get the response from the driver, maybe he slows down or gives any form of indication, only then you cross the road. 

That’s exactly my point. “Telling is part of communication”. Consider how many messages are there in your inbox which is yet to be opened? How many promotional e-mails are there waiting in your inbox just to be deleted? So, telling is only a part not the entire communication, it's just a part of it. 

You can say things when you know it. 

Can you say things because you know it? No, you can’t say something just because you know it. Let’s take this example, imagine you are having a conversation with a person, just after learning a new word; and that word wants to escape your lips. If you aren’t sure this person knows the word, resist the temptation, swallow that word and save it for another conversation. 

Remember: In communication your choice of words purely depends on the other person’s intelligence, not yours. This one is real serious because if the other person feels like you are trying to prove you know better than him, it isn’t going to be good for you. And when he doesn’t understand the word, the communication fails. 

It is not worth taking the risk. The reason why I am telling this is, I have seen people when they have a conversation especially in English, they have this try to bring in difficult words, outrageous phrases, technical terms, jargons just to show they know things. 

You can do it, when you interact with a group of equally intelligent people. Other than that, keep it simple and easy, let everyone en joy your point. 

Communication becomes better by speaking. 

This one is a real cracker. People believe they can improve their communication skills only by speaking. I have a question? How did we learn our first language? Our mother tongue? As a baby, all we did was listen, we observed sounds, we observed the way people, speak, their body language, expressions, and tone in their voice. 

And we speak only with what we have listened to. So how do I improve my communication skills in any language? What is the formula for doing that? You will listen more than you what speak. Listen -> Speak. 

That’s the formula, that’s how you do it. People, We have one mouth and two ears for some good reason. So listen to people around you. Listen – to your family, friends, co-workers, clients, people you like. Paying attention to what’s being said and thought, it will help you reach your audience. Give it a try and see the difference it can make! 

Communication is a natural ability Beginners have this idea; Communication is natural skill. He is a naturally gifted communicator. 

Maybe I am not naturally a communicator. I am not good at it. Communication is not natural. Nobody is born with it. Every living being learns to communicate. Maybe all of us are at different levels of communication, that’s all. 

And all the communicators you admire today, have faced exactly the same problems, you are facing right now. They just had the right mindset to improve. They were willing to improve. They developed the required skills, adopted the right practices and they improved. 

That’s exactly why they have become the speaker they are today. Provided you follow the right practice and you are willing to improve, you will definitely become the communicator you admire today. Remember: Communicators aren’t born; they are trained. 

What you say is what people hear What you say is what people hear, really? 

Sometimes you can say something, audience will take it in an entirely different way. It happens, yeah. Because people see things in a different way, and the same message will be understood in an entirely different way. 

I am sure you have come across this scenario, while you text you send a message to someone and the other person reads it in an entirely different tone, and that triggers a war. As a speaker, I have come across the same scenario, I try to crack a joke, but at times, because of my stiff body language, and the way I say it, people don’t get the joke. 

And I have to be like, “Excuse me ! I just cracked a joke”. And then they are like. “Sir!!Super soooper sir!!! really made me laugh". People understand things based on their mindsets and opinions. So it is your responsibility to ensure miscommunication doesn’t happen. 

If people don’t agree with you, then they misunderstood. 

It will be a mistake if you assume everyone will agree with you. You communicate based on your point of view. Others will communicate based on their point of view. Sometimes it might be different. You don’t have to necessarily agree with everyone out there. Lets take this example, a famous one. 

What is 6 to one person is 9 to another person. And guess what? both of them are right, from their own point of views, from the way they see it, it is correct. You can’t say, he is wrong or he misunderstood the message. 

They are totally fine and still don’t have to agree with each other. Sometimes, People will listen to your message just fine and will not agree with you. Be ok with it. Don’t take it personally. Sometimes you will be at the other end of it. Because people see things in a different way and Remember: every pair of eyes looks at the world in a different way. 

Good communication has taken place The greatest myth you will experience is a feeling that you have communicated well with someone. 

We assume good communication has taken place. You feel like you had a great conversation with someone, but all that took place was some words and feel-good emotions. So what makes a good communication? Assume the conversation is complete, only when you get a response or an outcome that confirms it. 

Good communication is determined by people’s responses, not assumptions. Now You are aware of the myths of communication while others are not. I want you to apply these truths into your regular conversation. If you have realised these myths at any point. 

Iklan Tengah Artikel 1

Iklan Tengah Artikel 2

Iklan Bawah Artikel