How to Socialize for Introverts
Rabu, 21 Juli 2021
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Melbourne Classical Radio - This article is about improving communication for introverts.
You know, we are living again in a very, very competitive
world.
Everybody is out there
Putting themselves in social media or even an organization's
self-branding themselves and that's very, very important to
Brand yourself and I will make an article on that very soon but
if you are an introverted
person
you may lose out from really good opportunities.
You may be a top performer in your company
but not many will know about it.
And the smarter ones will not be as intelligent as you or as
hard-working as you,
but maybe more of polishing and marketing themselves better
than you and they will race ahead of you.
So I really want all those who are feeling that you are an
introvert to read to this article fully.
Now you must be wondering who are introverts?
Introverts are not necessarily people who are shy to speak to
people or who get anxious speaking to people, introvert,
introvertness
is not something that is genetic or that is by birth.
A lot of times, it is the environment where you grow up.
It is the environment, where you're surrounded, with the
kind of people that is surrounded with
can make you become an introverted person.
I once remember,
A Lady who worked with me in Australia
and she happens to come from South Africa.
She told me that her family, always told her that being a
female, she mustn't talk a lot.
So she become introverted.
And with a lot of support and mentoring and coaching from me,
she became an extroverted person or at least she knew how
to handle her introverted ness,
but didn't get her affect her career.
That is why all of you who are feeling introverted should
read to this article.
Do you know. 25 to 40 percent of the world
People
are introverted? What's common between
Mahatma Gandhi, President Obama, Deepika Padukone, Ranbir Kapoor
and
Elon Musk?
They all are introverted people.
Can you believe that? Very successful in their careers.
One of my own
mentors and father figure,
who groomed me to become the youngest CEO is a completely
introverted person, but I never knew that because he's trained
himself
to be
outspoken when needed, but when he is done
in a day of talking, he will just go into a shell and get
out of the sea.
So there are ways to manage your introvertedness to an
extent that it doesn't affect your career progression.
What are some fun facts about introverts? You know introverts
like their me-time, They like to be alone.
They get a lot of energy from being with themselves.
Second one is
they despise people who show off, who seek attention.
When they are speaking to a person, they are extremely
active in listening and they want to know real details about
you.
So if you have an introverted friend, watch out that they
actually
know a lot more about you than many of your other friends.
Introverted people don't like gossips and rumorings.
They don't contribute to these
small talks and unwanted discussions.
But then being an introvert also has a lot of key strengths.
So what are the key strengths that helps introverts to
capitalize on it?
So all you introverts,
You have some amazing key strengths and utilize it to
your advantage. You are active listening, that helps you to
understand Concepts, grasp things better than extroverts,
you have a lot of empathy when you're listening
to people.
So people connect with you and that brings a lot of respect
for the relationship
they have with you. Introverts speak when it's required and
they make a lot of sense and meaning when you speak so you
got a lot of respect, newfound respect, you should be proud of
that.
And also finally, when you spend the time, it's quality
time.
So these things are great advantages that you should
maximize and capitalize.
Finally, how do you improve your communication as an
introvert?
So, let me take you all through certain points, you can use
to improve your communication as an introvert.
First thing you should do is set a goal that you got to put
yourself out there if you want to progress in your career and
in your life, even if you want to pick up
a girlfriend or boyfriend, you got to be out there.
So you gotta decide in your head.
I need to talk when it's needed.
So you're going to put an outer shell where required.
Now, how do you do that?
My suggestion is
for various scenarios and different kind of opportunities,
presented to communicate with people, prepare a set of
standard questions.
If it is work scenario and you're meeting a new person for
the first time, what are the questions you will ask?
If you're going to a party where you are meeting complete
strangers, what kind of questions you will ask?
If you are in a classroom
talking to fellow students, what kind of questions you will
ask? So prepare certain questions, a certain set of
questions.
A first set of Icebreaker questions.
Always have this handy. If you're unsure you will remember,
write it in a cheat sheet, keep it in your wallet or your purse.
Now,
next point, when you go into an environment where you have to
communicate with strangers, the first person that you see,
start talking to that person.
Don't see whether he is an old
person or young person.
Are they like you or they dissimilar,
are they smart?
Are they nerdy?
Are they quiet?
Doesn't matter.
Just start the conversation.
You have the set of questions from the previous points
I mentioned,
use that.
When you meet this person, think in your head, you have a
goal, you need to communicate with them
even for two minutes.
Think about the wonderful promotion
or a relationship that you will make by making that first step.
Put a hook in your head.
If I do this,
I have something else amazing coming.
If, then, else. Once you've started meeting people and you
start communicating, you will start getting into a flow of
suitable topics
that this person may like.
So just be aware of some World, Knowledge, read newspapers,
read magazines, be aware of current affairs so you can pick
up conversations and continue the conversations.
You don't have to be a master of any subject, but be a jack
of a few different subjects
which you will use,
come handy when you are interacting with people.
That's Point number three.
Now Point number four is sometimes as an introvert when
you're communicating with someone for a long time it can
be suffocating for you.
Just take a break for maybe five, ten minutes, get out of
that place.
Give an excuse that you want to grab a glass of water or go to
the toilet.
Refresh your mind, come back and continue because
introverts do need that break once in a while.
The first point is starting various forms of communication.
Before you try out your external communication,
start with Social Media communication,
write emails,
send messages to people, then extend it to a
presentation to a known audience
and then finally can be presentation to an unknown
stranger audience.
Just take step by step
and practice.
The next point is
join Toastmasters Club.
It's available in every city.
It's a club
worldwidec called Toastmasters.
It is where people who don't know each other come together
and practice public speaking and communication, this will
really help to remove your anxiety.
Remove the stress out of you and helps you communicate, you
know,
unbiased and judged environment.
You will feel after a few sessions, your yourself
and you will start practicing communication.
And it will help you become a more confident person.
But the most important and the last reason
is just remember,
if you don't actively pursue and practice these tips,
you could be stuck in your career forever.
So for all these reasons,
I would like the introvert listening to this video, to
practice these tips
and do share.